How can it hurt and heal at the same time? Your tribute is so beautiful, so full of love and concern for Honey. Kara, I'm so thankful for your work, and Jaden I am blown away by the powerful production that you made! I have just read the blog, and viewed your video, and right now it is hard for me to put thoughts together well. I just want you to know that I am so thankful for this beautiful way to memorialize the most wonderful man in the world--aren't we lucky to be his: wife, daughter, grandson? I have wanted a special way to honor him, and you have begun a living memorial. Thank you..... I love you, Momma/Meme xoxox
Sandy, thank you for sharing this site with me! Jaden, your project is awesome. You are such a smart young man and I know your grandfather was and still is very proud of you! I know you and your family miss him very much. I think it is wonderful that your family is honoring him through this blog. Keeping his memory alive is a great way to feel connected to him. Hang in there! -Amanda Tevebaugh Victim Services Specialist Mothers Against Drunk Driving
Words fail, but Jaden's video is an inspired tribute to his "Honey." Any attempt to understand kHorton's loss from an earthly perspective is fruitless (in a fallen world, horrible things happen to good people and so we wait for eternity to wipe the tears & see "face to face")... The sum of this world's goodness, humor, laughter,joie d'vivre, and the music of the spheres is so much smaller because he is not here. Nor can I forget "Horton-culture"--my neighbor always knew just what the lawn or dogwood tree or azaleas needed in order to thrive.
My sincerest sympathies to his adored and adoring family--the most amazing part of his amazing legacy. Your lives and love commemorate him every day. Through you, his goodness is replenished and endures.
Thank you, Kara, for building and sharing this website.
I've watched this so many times, Jaden....I think you did a fantastic job of expressing your loss. I wish I could do that too. Tonight I think of "all those lives that "you've" (Upchurch) been taking."... Honey's, of course, Mine, your's, your Mother's, Dad's ,your brother's, Lara's, Mara's,Kelsey's, Kendall's, Maranda's, ...and on and on..... Gary's , and Carol's , and Joy's there are so many that are hurt my this Man's decision to drive totally out of control at one thirty in the afternoon!!!!!!!..................... My tears can't stop........ I don't know how........ it hurts too badly to try........so I let them flow. Thank you Jaden for expressing your hurt so well........xoxoxMemexoxoxox
I watch this over and over. I wonder how can this be? HOw can someone take HOney from us?? How did this happen?.... I wonder how he hurt. I think about how he was alone. I hurt, oh I hurt for him. How could I be here at home, and he killed so close to the house, and I never knew...until afterward? How can that be? I think of you, Jaden, and Slater, and Chandler, and Kelsey and Kendall, and Maranda.....and I wonder about your hurt. I can't understand where you are, how you hurt. I only know my hurt. I want to help you with your pain, and then I know that I can't. Only God can help you, and I pray for that calming love to enter your hearts, and your mothers, and mine. I love you, Meme
Dear Jaden, Your expression in this video is so raw, and real. Thank you. Thank you for helping me see the "edge" of my hurt, for seeing the face of the man who killed our Honey. I try to avoid his face in the courtroom. But here, I can look him in the eye. I look for his remorse, his sorrow. I don't find it. I will continue to look........ and I will continue to pray that he will find a way to ask God to forgive him, and to receive his salvation. For that is the only good and fitting gift for the loss of Honey.......his death must be meaningful and bring about a greater Good! It must. ..... I love you so much, and I thank you for this deeply personal video that brings me to tears, yet I come back day after day....because I need this. Thank you Jaden, Meme xoxoxoxox
... so true, it is hard to breathe sometimes. One would think that it would get easier, but for me, for my experience, it seems to get harder. There are times when the air is frozen, even in the heat of summer, stiff and hard, there is no penetration; no relief; there is no "give" only "take." ........ Your post helps me to see that clearly, and then to accept it....otherwise I wouldn't know what it is..nor how to handle it.....this deep, ugly grief! Thank you, my sweet Jaden.....I am so thankful for your talent, for your post, and for your love,...........Meme
for 8 months I have mourned the loss of my great love, the ONE who gave me understanding...my LOVE............... and now... and now....what does it all come to? It is still Hurt, it is still Loss, It it PAIN..but there is no END. There is no end. I cannot understand how this man must feel in jail all these months. Does He even regret what happened? He doesn't seem to regret anything. He seems "okay" with it all..of course we haven't talked to him..but thaty is how he looks..... It is NOT okay with us. This is the most painful and difficult thing I have EVER experienced. This is HELL. ......... I cannot go beyond this point...beyond this hurt. Why not? My faith,I belive is strong... I look to the future in faith........... then why can't I move beyond this destructive and terrible hurt....??????? I really do pray for you, you no good person!!!! i PRAY for you every Sunday after I receive the body and Blood of our Lord Jesus Christ..that you will ask HIM for forgivenes, that you will find Salvation... WILL YOU???? Oh, my God, I am so lost....this is this most painful thing I have ever endured......and it is YOU Shawn Upchurch who caused it!!! YOU. YOU. YOU took my love, my live away. How could you do that?
Dear Jaden, Your tribute to Honey still means so much to me even after, especially after two years. I listen to the song, watch the photos you chose, and I understand your heartache along with mine. I just want to thank you for loving Honey so much to make this tribute, and for being the fine young man that you are. We are all so proud of you....and that includes Honey, your proud Grandfather who loved making sandwiches for you, and then bragging that you liked them !!! I love you forever, Meme xoxoxoxo
You know, Jaden, this video of yours shows me the DEPTH of your grief at the time. Then, I clouldn't feel it for the heaviness of my own, but now a few years out, I can see/feel/sense the hurt that you have felt. Thank you,first, for you love of Honey, and then, for your IN-YOUR-FACE-PORTRAYAL of the depth of your loss, and hurt!!!! I am so proud of YOU......Honey must be so proud of you..... just as we were a few years ago ... when we first "saw" you.... Oh how I love you Jaden!! xoxoxox Meme ... thank you for this video...
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How can it hurt and heal at the same time? Your tribute is so beautiful, so full of love and concern for Honey. Kara, I'm so thankful for your work, and Jaden I am blown away by the powerful production that you made! I have just read the blog, and viewed your video, and right now it is hard for me to put thoughts together well. I just want you to know that I am so thankful for this beautiful way to memorialize the most wonderful man in the world--aren't we lucky to be his: wife, daughter, grandson? I have wanted a special way to honor him, and you have begun a living memorial. Thank you..... I love you, Momma/Meme xoxox
I really miss you, Daddy - that is all I can say right now. I love you
Sandy, thank you for sharing this site with me! Jaden, your project is awesome. You are such a smart young man and I know your grandfather was and still is very proud of you! I know you and your family miss him very much. I think it is wonderful that your family is honoring him through this blog. Keeping his memory alive is a great way to feel connected to him. Hang in there!
-Amanda Tevebaugh
Victim Services Specialist
Mothers Against Drunk Driving
Words fail, but Jaden's video is an inspired tribute to his "Honey." Any attempt to understand kHorton's loss from an earthly perspective is fruitless (in a fallen world, horrible things happen to good people and so we wait for eternity to wipe the tears & see "face to face")... The sum of this world's goodness, humor, laughter,joie d'vivre, and the music of the spheres is so much smaller because he is not here. Nor can I forget "Horton-culture"--my neighbor always knew just what the lawn or dogwood tree or azaleas needed in order to thrive.
My sincerest sympathies to his adored and adoring family--the most amazing part of his amazing legacy. Your lives and love commemorate him every day. Through you, his goodness is replenished and endures.
Thank you, Kara, for building and sharing this website.
With heartfelt love and prayers--
Karen Sloan
Jaden, I am so proud of you. You did an amazing job on this.
Aunt Lara
I've watched this so many times, Jaden....I think you did a fantastic job of expressing your loss. I wish I could do that too.
Tonight I think of "all those lives that "you've" (Upchurch) been taking."... Honey's, of course, Mine, your's, your Mother's, Dad's ,your brother's, Lara's, Mara's,Kelsey's, Kendall's, Maranda's, ...and on and on..... Gary's , and Carol's , and Joy's there are so many that are hurt my this Man's decision to drive totally out of control at one thirty in the afternoon!!!!!!!.....................
My tears can't stop........ I don't know how........ it hurts too badly to try........so I let them flow.
Thank you Jaden for expressing your hurt so well........xoxoxMemexoxoxox
I watch this over and over. I wonder how can this be? HOw can someone take HOney from us?? How did this happen?.... I wonder how he hurt. I think about how he was alone. I hurt, oh I hurt for him. How could I be here at home, and he killed so close to the house, and I never knew...until afterward? How can that be? I think of you, Jaden, and Slater, and Chandler, and Kelsey and Kendall, and Maranda.....and I wonder about your hurt. I can't understand where you are, how you hurt. I only know my hurt. I want to help you with your pain, and then I know that I can't. Only God can help you, and I pray for that calming love to enter your hearts, and your mothers, and mine.
I love you, Meme
Dear Jaden, Your expression in this video is so raw, and real. Thank you. Thank you for helping me see the "edge" of my hurt, for seeing the face of the man who killed our Honey. I try to avoid his face in the courtroom. But here, I can look him in the eye. I look for his remorse, his sorrow. I don't find it. I will continue to look........ and I will continue to pray that he will find a way to ask God to forgive him, and to receive his salvation. For that is the only good and fitting gift for the loss of Honey.......his death must be meaningful and bring about a greater Good! It must. ..... I love you so much, and I thank you for this deeply personal video that brings me to tears, yet I come back day after day....because I need this. Thank you Jaden, Meme xoxoxoxox
... so true, it is hard to breathe sometimes. One would think that it would get easier, but for me, for my experience, it seems to get harder. There are times when the air is frozen, even in the heat of summer, stiff and hard, there is no penetration; no relief; there is no "give" only "take." ........ Your post helps me to see that clearly, and then to accept it....otherwise I wouldn't know what it is..nor how to handle it.....this deep, ugly grief!
Thank you, my sweet Jaden.....I am so thankful for your talent, for your post, and for your love,...........Meme
for 8 months I have mourned the loss of my great love, the ONE who gave me understanding...my LOVE............... and now... and now....what does it all come to?
It is still Hurt, it is still Loss, It it PAIN..but there is no END. There is no end. I cannot understand how this man must feel in jail all these months. Does He even regret what happened? He doesn't seem to regret anything. He seems "okay" with it all..of course we haven't talked to him..but thaty is how he looks.....
It is NOT okay with us. This is the most painful and difficult thing I have
EVER experienced. This is HELL. ......... I cannot go beyond this point...beyond this hurt. Why not? My faith,I belive is strong... I look to the future in faith........... then why can't I move beyond this destructive and terrible hurt....??????? I really do pray for you, you no good person!!!! i PRAY for you every Sunday after I receive the body and Blood of our Lord Jesus Christ..that you will ask HIM for forgivenes, that you will find Salvation... WILL YOU????
Oh, my God, I am so lost....this is this most painful thing I have ever endured......and it is YOU Shawn Upchurch who caused it!!! YOU. YOU. YOU took my love, my live away.
How could you do that?
Dear Jaden, Your tribute to Honey still means so much to me even after, especially after two years. I listen to the song, watch the photos you chose, and I understand your heartache along with mine.
I just want to thank you for loving Honey so much to make this tribute, and for being the fine young man that you are. We are all so proud of you....and that includes Honey, your proud Grandfather who loved making sandwiches for you, and then bragging that you liked them !!!
I love you forever, Meme xoxoxoxo
You know, Jaden, this video of yours shows me the DEPTH of your grief at the time. Then, I clouldn't feel it for the heaviness of my own, but now a few years out, I can see/feel/sense the hurt that you have felt. Thank you,first, for you love of Honey, and then, for your IN-YOUR-FACE-PORTRAYAL of the depth of your loss, and hurt!!!! I am so proud of YOU......Honey must be so proud of you..... just as we were a few years ago ... when we first "saw" you.... Oh how I love you Jaden!! xoxoxox Meme ... thank you for this video...
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